Counselling

Counselling

My goal is simple. I will work with you to overcome whatever issues you face so you can become vibrantly happy. I want you to realize your full potential so you can increase your ability to function harmoniously in peace with yourself and with those around you. Our time together will improve the quality of all your relationships as you discover how you can live pro-actively, develop your potential and accomplish your heart’s desires. I will show you how to: balance and integrate all aspects of your being; establish respectful, cooperative relationships with yourself, others and your environment; and make daily brain-healthy and wellness-oriented choices. With healing comes the ability to live a more fulfilled, passionate, happy, love filled life – wellness that does more than change – it transforms! Interested in alternative or health & wellness therapies? Information here.

How Can Counselling Help?

Helping people is my passion!  Learning how to do that is my lifelong pursuit!  In over forty years of practice we have helped restore the lives of thousands of people from every walk of life, dealing with almost every area imaginable.  I am constantly keeping abreast of the latest research.

Whether you show it from the outside or not, everyone becomes overwhelmed sometimes in life. The world we live in today is demanding and fast paced. There are times when you feel like they you have gone off track and lost some of the meaningfulness of your life. At other times, difficult life experiences create a feeling of being stuck and unable move forward or process life events such as grief, trauma and life transitions.

In counselling you will learn to look at life and your concerns in an entirely different way. While friends and family try to provide a sympathetic ear, a trained and experienced therapist uses evidence based techniques to help you move toward solutions to the problems you are struggling with. The term “evidence based” simply means the techniques have been tested according to specific standards and have been found to be effective. In therapy you will learn specific emotional and social skills, which can dramatically help you shift the way you relate to yourself and to others.

Within the confidential, restful and safe space of DRay’s office you can honestly talk about your private thoughts and struggles. DRay is trained to provide you with empathic, honest and non-judgemental perspective as well as specific help regarding the problems you are experiencing.

Studies have found that the relationship between you and your therapist is the key to a successful therapeutic experience. A major 1995 Consumer Reports study concluded that patients benefited substantially from therapy but that the actual techniques used were less important that the connection between you and the therapist. The key to successful therapy is a connected, trusting relationship. Interested in alternative or health & wellness therapies? Information here

DRay is dedicated and passionate about helping you. Call or e-mail him for a free consultation to determine if your goals and my services are a good therapeutic fit. Please click here to contact DRay.

 

Talk Therapy Techniques

DRay feels we all have our own unique ways of looking at the world, ourselves, and other people so to be the most effective at helping you I have a toolbox of talk therapy skills and interventions.  This is sometimes known as Integrative or Eclectic Therapy approach.  Equipped with appropriate tools, in discussion with you we can devise a powerful unique plan that is best suited for your issues and goals in counselling.

I draw from  a number of approaches in creating individualized treatment plans. They are combined in a distinctive ways to create the possibility for dramatic effective change. I will not go into the theory of each approach but simply overview some therapies that I use.

Cognitive therapy (CBT) is probably the most popular and effective talk therapy for dealing with depression and anxiety. The idea here is to simultaneously modify thoughts and behaviours to help the individual not only get beyond the negative core beliefs that are holding them back but also change the behaviour patterns they have developed in response to those thought patterns. It is often our troublesome behaviour that first brings us to therapy, and then, once we have somewhat modified the behaviour, you are in a position to work on changing the negative thoughts that create the unwanted behaviour in the first place.  CBT is probably the most impacting talking therapy… it can help change how you think (“Cognitive or Truth”) and what you do (“Behaviour or Actions”). These changes can often help you to feel better quicker than other talk therapies. CBT focuses on the ‘here and now’ problems and difficulties. Instead of focusing on the causes of your distress or symptoms in the past, it looks for ways to improve your state of mind now. DRay’s effective Life-Change Tools ® and Marriage Life Change Tools ® employ CBT.

Integrative or Eclectic Therapy: While I primarily use CBT, I also use a number of other therapies as needed to best help you achieve your counseling goals. Eclectic or Integrative Therapy is essentially a common sense approach to effectively help you on-going by tailoring therapy to your individual needs and issues. I may not strictly adhere to all the parameters of the many therapies. For instance, I may use Positive Psychology in combination with Cognitive Behavioural Therapy and at times add elements of others like Reality Therapy.

As needed I use Family therapy defined as a type of psychotherapy that focuses on families and couples in intimate relationships, in hopes of bringing change and positive development.  In other words, family therapy may help you better your relationships and understanding within your family and close relationships.

Where appropriate we may need to explore your unconscious thoughts and feelings and relate this to underlying emotional conflicts, interpret defensive mechanisms and how they related to your self-esteem this is known as Psychoanalytic Therapy.

Another type of therapy that I sometimes integrate is Gestalt Therapy which involves determining what happened during your childhood and how these events have interrupted the normal developmental process. Uncovering these events may go a long way towards helping you understand and prevent it from holding him back from what you want to do with your life.